Tryghed

Dansk version:

Tryghed

Der findes mennesker, som føler sig hjemme i andres favn.

Jeg har aldrig helt kendt den følelse.

Derfor betyder ordene "jeg er tryg ved dig" noget andet, end de måske gør for dig.

Det er ikke en tryghed uden frygt. Ikke en tryghed uden tvivl. Det er den største tryghed, jeg indtil nu har kunnet bære.

Hvis jeg kunne, ville jeg være hundrede procent tryg ved dig. Ikke fordi jeg forventer, at du skal bære mig, men fordi den ro, du giver mig, er noget, jeg så sjældent finder.

Da jeg sagde, at jeg kommer, når du er der, var det aldrig ment som en byrde.

Det var et kompliment.

For din tilstedeværelse forandrer et rum. Din omsorg, dit nærvær, din rummelighed giver mig mod til at træde ind.

Du minder mig om, at verden ikke altid behøver at føles farlig.

Du bliver et sted, jeg ved, jeg kan finde tilbage til, når tvivlen larmer, og troen på mig selv er blevet væk.

Den tryghed, du skaber, giver mig mod til at gøre ting, jeg ellers aldrig ville turde.

Den lærer mig at stole en lille smule mere på mig selv.

Men når mine ord om tryghed hos dig bliver vendt til noget forkert, noget usundt, noget jeg ikke burde føle, så forsvinder jorden under mine fødder.

For det, der skulle gøre mig tryg, bliver pludselig det, der gør mig utryg.

Jeg ønsker ikke at lægge noget over på dig.

Jeg ønsker blot, at du ser, at når jeg siger, at jeg er tryg ved dig, så er det ikke en lænke.

Det er en tak.

En tak, fordi den du er, giver mig et sted at finde styrken igen.

Og måske, en dag, vil den tryghed, du har hjulpet mig med at finde, være blevet så stor, at jeg kan bære den helt selv.

Men lige nu er du en del af grunden til, at jeg tror, at det overhovedet er muligt.

Engelske version:

Safety

Some people grow up knowing what it feels like to rest safely in another person's presence.

I never truly did.

So when I tell you, "I feel safe with you," it does not mean I have no fear.

It means this is the deepest safety I have been able to allow myself.

If I could, I would choose to trust you completely.

Not because I expect you to carry me, but because the peace you bring into my life is something I have rarely known.

When I said I would come if you were there, it was never meant as pressure.

It was meant as gratitude.

Because your presence changes a room.

Your kindness. Your care. Your patience. The space you make for me to simply exist.

They remind me that the world doesn't always have to feel unsafe.

You have become a place I know I can return to whenever doubt becomes louder than my belief in myself.

The safety you create gives me courage.

It helps me step into places, try things, and become someone I would never have dared to be without believing there is somewhere I can always find my way back to.

So when my words about feeling safe with you are turned into something wrong, something unhealthy, something I shouldn't feel, that safety begins to disappear.

What once grounded me becomes another reason to be afraid.

I am not asking you to carry my life.

I only hope you can understand that when I say "I feel safe with you," it is not a burden.

It is a thank you.

A thank you for being the kind of person whose kindness, presence, and compassion help me believe in myself again.

And maybe one day, the safety you helped me discover will become strong enough that I can carry it on my own.

But today, you are part of the reason I believe that day can exist.